I agree, but many who prefer to gain independence find it near to impossible to do --- between rent prices and lack of job opportunities.
I actually bought a housethat was too big for just me, hoping daughter and son would move back in, but no. Son loves Colorado where he moved to after leaving the Marines, and daughter is not speaking to me. So that's that!
Hate to hear about your daughter. I won't speak to my son. I raised him and took care of him. His father was lazy and wouldn't work. Becoming an abuser so divorced when he was five and no child support and guess who the bad person is. My son from the time he was thirteen became bad toward me but wouldn't in with him. Finally, one day when he was 48 had enough. Just can't handle it anymore. So, you may be better off like me. Do I hate it all came to this Yes, but mentally better off.
Sorry about your circumstances. I hear you, Susan. Some times it is better, we are better off. I know you said it's best this way, but I wondered does your son try to reach out to you?
For me, things started to get bad in 2020. Daughter had moved out and I was trying to tell her abt what I was learning abt u-know, the plandemic. She thought I was crazy. It was ok for a while, but after some time total silence. And we see things wayyyy differently, so that part of it makes it easier.
I can't make her talk ---- to tell me why she stays away. 😭
I had to write a email to him cause every time I have ever tried to talk with him he would say verbal abuses. He tried about three times and I wouldn’t answer the phone. Just seeing his number I would almost get sick. Just so many years and something just snapped one day. I hope your daughter will come around and be nice.
I totally understand. We also have an adult son who chose not to speak to us. Like I stated above we have 3 more kids that are wonderful. One lives with us because of a disability he has but he's most helpful and a sweetheart.
Exactly the same position with us. We have an adult son 45 we haven't spoken to in 14 yrs. But at least it's peaceful. Have three other kids and lots of grandkids and great grandkids that filled that gap.
The economy, housing, job losses, national debt, endless wars, food shortages, water shortages, natural disasters, deep divisions, and virus outbreaks are all playing a role in preparing Americans for the Fourth Industrial Revolution.
The WEF tells us we will own nothing and be happy. The roots of this are spiritual, and in His perfect time, Jesus will return.
Michael is correct: the years ahead will be unlike any other, very difficult for those who refuse Neuralinks, the Metaverse, and the New World Order.
This is the season for fasting, prayer, and knowing who your God is. Be in scripture daily, pray you will not be deceived.
Multi generational homes used to be the norm. It wasn’t until the 1950s that the atomic family was a real possibility. We are just back to the natural state of things in that respect. The employment issue is going to be tough to solve, though. Odds are very good that it will lead to a revolution at some point in the west.
One of my kids i am still in touch with, out of two, and 3 out if 5 grandkids. So i know what everyone is going through. One divorced his wife who had lupus and ran off with another woman... At least, one still talks to us. He is single and lives in a rent-controled apartment in LA.
Maybe we should change our will and give it all to him and none to his brother who walked away from his home and family...
My parents and my wife's parents were adults in the post wwIi era and they had little tiny houses that cost 10-15K back in the 50's and early 60's. One car and jobs that paid $3000/year. We had nothing extra and it didn't seem that bad because having wealth wasn't common. My mother got her masters degree in guidance and made 5000 in 1963. An unheard of salary at the time. But we weren’t rich. Just better off than many. We lived in a city where there were two large factories and the standard of living was quite high for that time period. Our parents each owned a modest home. But we didn't eat out much and luxurious living didn't exist at that time it wasn't until the 70's that people began to live less frugally. But at the same time inflation began to grip that nation and the cost of living began to skyrocket. The price of everything was doubling. Cars and homes were doubling in just a few years time. But that was just the beginning of how we got to this place in time. We bought a home during the Carter era at 14% interest rate. By the early 80's cars had tripled as had homes.
I live in New Zealand & the average price of a house where I grew up is around $1:1 million. So instead of sticking around in a city where everyone is stressed out & angry.
We moved to another part of the country. Brought a 10 acre property & went completely off grid for around the same price.
And now we are living the good life with our own stock, veggies etc & I have never been happier.
But it all comes down to perception as my wife said to me alot of people would hate our lifestyle.
Which involves work & planning not just flicking a switch & waiting for Uber eats to turn up.
Are you an empty nester fearful of a re-infestation of adult children bugs? There is a simple, inexpensive solution to guard against this-- change your door locks.
...or tell them that they have to contribute to all house bills including groceries. When we told one of our sons that...he decided he didn't want to stay. He told us he hated work and doesn't want to get a job. So he left. Heartbreaking. People...I don't understand this mentality and seems like I'm hearing it more and more each day. Dad kicked us out of the house when we graduated...get a job or go to college...you pick. That son is now 41 and does not have a job...from what we've heard...he goes from couch to couch...and from jail to jail. My hubby and I are staunch Christians...I know this is a Spiritual War...but how/when does this mentality start? In our public schools? It's so subtle.
Nothing wrong with kids living with their parents. A lot of people actually choose this family life.
I agree, but many who prefer to gain independence find it near to impossible to do --- between rent prices and lack of job opportunities.
I actually bought a housethat was too big for just me, hoping daughter and son would move back in, but no. Son loves Colorado where he moved to after leaving the Marines, and daughter is not speaking to me. So that's that!
Hate to hear about your daughter. I won't speak to my son. I raised him and took care of him. His father was lazy and wouldn't work. Becoming an abuser so divorced when he was five and no child support and guess who the bad person is. My son from the time he was thirteen became bad toward me but wouldn't in with him. Finally, one day when he was 48 had enough. Just can't handle it anymore. So, you may be better off like me. Do I hate it all came to this Yes, but mentally better off.
Sorry about your circumstances. I hear you, Susan. Some times it is better, we are better off. I know you said it's best this way, but I wondered does your son try to reach out to you?
For me, things started to get bad in 2020. Daughter had moved out and I was trying to tell her abt what I was learning abt u-know, the plandemic. She thought I was crazy. It was ok for a while, but after some time total silence. And we see things wayyyy differently, so that part of it makes it easier.
I can't make her talk ---- to tell me why she stays away. 😭
Thanks for sharing and your kind words.🤗
I had to write a email to him cause every time I have ever tried to talk with him he would say verbal abuses. He tried about three times and I wouldn’t answer the phone. Just seeing his number I would almost get sick. Just so many years and something just snapped one day. I hope your daughter will come around and be nice.
You don't need to be abused. Guess that's what works. 🤗
Thank you, I hope she comes around. She has my 1st grandchild and I miss seeing him.
We don't need to be abused by our own kids when people in the world are happy to fulfill that role.
It's hard to say no to the bs but unless we say no we will be swept away by every test that comes our way.
And let's face it satan doesn't fight fair & is happy to use those who are closest to us to attack us.
For the tragedy is not that man is born to die but what dies within a man while he is still alive.
I totally understand. We also have an adult son who chose not to speak to us. Like I stated above we have 3 more kids that are wonderful. One lives with us because of a disability he has but he's most helpful and a sweetheart.
Exactly the same position with us. We have an adult son 45 we haven't spoken to in 14 yrs. But at least it's peaceful. Have three other kids and lots of grandkids and great grandkids that filled that gap.
Sadly, it's common. Not good, but common
The economy, housing, job losses, national debt, endless wars, food shortages, water shortages, natural disasters, deep divisions, and virus outbreaks are all playing a role in preparing Americans for the Fourth Industrial Revolution.
The WEF tells us we will own nothing and be happy. The roots of this are spiritual, and in His perfect time, Jesus will return.
Michael is correct: the years ahead will be unlike any other, very difficult for those who refuse Neuralinks, the Metaverse, and the New World Order.
This is the season for fasting, prayer, and knowing who your God is. Be in scripture daily, pray you will not be deceived.
Multi generational homes used to be the norm. It wasn’t until the 1950s that the atomic family was a real possibility. We are just back to the natural state of things in that respect. The employment issue is going to be tough to solve, though. Odds are very good that it will lead to a revolution at some point in the west.
One of my kids i am still in touch with, out of two, and 3 out if 5 grandkids. So i know what everyone is going through. One divorced his wife who had lupus and ran off with another woman... At least, one still talks to us. He is single and lives in a rent-controled apartment in LA.
Maybe we should change our will and give it all to him and none to his brother who walked away from his home and family...
Many of us seem to have struggles with this. I've seen some utube channels on it------ESTRANGEMENT.
And those are the types of moral questions we should be asking ourselves.
My parents and my wife's parents were adults in the post wwIi era and they had little tiny houses that cost 10-15K back in the 50's and early 60's. One car and jobs that paid $3000/year. We had nothing extra and it didn't seem that bad because having wealth wasn't common. My mother got her masters degree in guidance and made 5000 in 1963. An unheard of salary at the time. But we weren’t rich. Just better off than many. We lived in a city where there were two large factories and the standard of living was quite high for that time period. Our parents each owned a modest home. But we didn't eat out much and luxurious living didn't exist at that time it wasn't until the 70's that people began to live less frugally. But at the same time inflation began to grip that nation and the cost of living began to skyrocket. The price of everything was doubling. Cars and homes were doubling in just a few years time. But that was just the beginning of how we got to this place in time. We bought a home during the Carter era at 14% interest rate. By the early 80's cars had tripled as had homes.
I live in New Zealand & the average price of a house where I grew up is around $1:1 million. So instead of sticking around in a city where everyone is stressed out & angry.
We moved to another part of the country. Brought a 10 acre property & went completely off grid for around the same price.
And now we are living the good life with our own stock, veggies etc & I have never been happier.
But it all comes down to perception as my wife said to me alot of people would hate our lifestyle.
Which involves work & planning not just flicking a switch & waiting for Uber eats to turn up.
Are you an empty nester fearful of a re-infestation of adult children bugs? There is a simple, inexpensive solution to guard against this-- change your door locks.
Only kiddin'...
...or tell them that they have to contribute to all house bills including groceries. When we told one of our sons that...he decided he didn't want to stay. He told us he hated work and doesn't want to get a job. So he left. Heartbreaking. People...I don't understand this mentality and seems like I'm hearing it more and more each day. Dad kicked us out of the house when we graduated...get a job or go to college...you pick. That son is now 41 and does not have a job...from what we've heard...he goes from couch to couch...and from jail to jail. My hubby and I are staunch Christians...I know this is a Spiritual War...but how/when does this mentality start? In our public schools? It's so subtle.